The Mindful Path — Friendship | Feb. 3, 2025

“We cannot tell the precise moment when friendship is formed. As in filling a vessel drop by drop, there is at last a drop which makes it run over; so in a series of kindnesses there is at last one which makes the heart run over.” – Ray Bradbury

February is the perfect time to consider philia love or the love between friends and family. In Greek, philia often translates to brotherly love or deep friendship. This type of love generally forms when individuals have shared values, a common purpose, and/or time to cultivate a shared experience. Like many other forms of love, strong friendships are built on foundations of trust, love, and mutual understanding. At any age, friendships offer a protective factor for our vitality and happiness. Friendships can enhance mental awareness, combat loneliness, improve physical health, and provide emotional support.

The National Poll on Healthy Aging reports –

• 90% of people age 50 and older reported that they have at least one close friend while 10% did not have any close friends,

• About half of older adults with fair or poor mental health (47%) said they do not have enough close friends, and

• The majority of adults aged 50 and older with a close friend (70%) said they can definitely count on their close friends to provide support in discussing their health.

Heavenly Care, a home health group based in Austin, Texas provides these tips for making new friends:

1. Join Social Groups or Clubs

Local community centers, libraries, and senior organizations often host groups tailored to specific interests, such as book clubs, gardening societies, or craft circles. Joining a group based on a personal hobby is a natural way to meet like-minded people.

2. Participate in Classes or Workshops

Learning something new or reconnecting with a past interest, whether it’s painting, yoga, or computer skills, offers a dual benefit: personal growth and the opportunity to meet others who share the same curiosity.

3. Volunteer

Volunteering not only provides a sense of purpose but also introduces seniors to others who are passionate about similar causes. Whether it’s helping at a local shelter, mentoring younger generations, or participating in environmental cleanups, volunteering fosters connections.

4. Utilize Technology

Social media platforms, apps, and online forums designed for seniors make it easier to connect with others. Video calls, virtual meetups, and discussion boards can bridge geographic distances and open doors to new friendships.

5. Attend Religious or Spiritual Gatherings

For those who are spiritually inclined, places of worship often provide a welcoming environment for building friendships through group activities, services, and community outreach programs.

6. Reconnect with Old Friends

Reaching out to former classmates, colleagues, or neighbors can rekindle old relationships. Social media and online directories make it easier than ever to reconnect.

7. Consider moving to a Senior Living Community

Senior living communities are designed to foster social interaction. With regular group activities, shared meals, and on-site events, these communities make it easier to form connections.

As we endure the snowy, frigid weather of winter, I hope it offers an opportunity to consider new and exciting ways to connect with others. Drop by drop, moment by moment, new friendships are waiting to be formed.

(Photo credit: Walter Randlehoff)